Margaritas, friends and hair

I had a lovely night last night with my good friend C. at Malo's (on Sunset Blvd. past Vermont in the Silverlake area) we had some excellent Margaritas and some serious catching up to do (it's been two months) . While sipping margaritas and catching up, one of the big topics we discussed was respect. Most of us realize we deserve respect and know that you usually don't get it until you start giving it to yourself but it is always a unique situation when you realize that you're not getting it from a friend. When a friend disrepects you DON'T TAKE IT! As a woman I am prone to the we need to discuss things but I've decided....you don't always have to. Before engaging in a serious we have issues that need to be sorted out conversation, you first need to ask yourself do you care any longer? Is there anything worth fighting for in this relationship? And is the other person even willing to listen to you? If you said no to all of those questions why are you wasting your time? Out of some need to tell yourself well at least I tried, believe me you've probably tried everything before things got to this point. Or you might feel some weird sort of obligation or guilt and if that's the case then that is your issue that you need to work on. If there is some wrong doing on your part address it and move on. At the end of the day life is precious and we only have this one life right now that we know of. Yes there will/are people in your life who you spend a whole lifelong friendship with and there are some that your paths will go in different directions and when that point has arrived then let it happen. Why struggle for something when there is nothing to struggle for? Now I'm not talking about little arguements you have, becuase we're all human and those are bound to happen or even bumby schisms (they too will occur) I'm talking about when you've reached the point that you're looking at this other person and you're wondering why am I here, when you can no longer contribute anything to this relationship, when you don't feel good about yourself or the other person. That's life and it's ok, the key is not to stay there and grow to resent that person or yourself. You met for a reason and be grateful for the lesson learned, the good times had (and hopefully there were some). So that's the crio girl's rant for the day. Oh and how did hair come into last night's topic? I told C. about the website nappturality.com we had a good chuckle, she's going to check it out and since C's a white girl it makes it all the more amusing.

Peace and love